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Healthy Long-Distance Relationships



Sat Nam, Yogi Amandeep!  I am in a long-distance relationship with my partner.  Also, in my professional life, I conduct business with colleagues who live overseas.  I am wondering how to keep these relationships healthy and growing when we spend so much time far apart, so much time absent from one another.


Yogi Amandeep


I offer you an esoteric reply.


In the ancient past, a master would use the gong to teach his seekers to meditate.  This was once upon a time when masters used the gong differently than we do today.  Today, we have complicated gong playing with information, methods, and trainings.  But back then, the seekers would just sit together.  The master would say, “Now, listen! You will listen to the sound until you cannot hear the sound anymore.”  Then the master would strike the gong once.  Only once.  Only once.  He would strike the gong once and let the sound continue on and on.


The seekers would listen to this

only one strike of the gong.


Some would hear the sound continue for a few moments and then they would hear nothing.


Those who could meditate more deeply would hear the sound of the gong continue on for a long, long time; but then eventually, they would hear no more.


Then there were those seekers who were the realized ones among the group; they heard the one gong strike continue to sound … forever.   Because you may not know this, but whenever the gong is sounded, the sound continues to resonate forever, unto infinity; the soundwave continues out into the universe forever.  The sound from just one strike of the gong never ends; it vibrates forever.


You may wonder what this has to do with your long-distance relationships.

Just realize how it is that awareness-unto-distance opens the sensitive space; furthermore, the sensitive space opens the sacred space.


The more we abide with space and consciousness, the more refined the consciousness becomes.  Avoid too much focus in your mind.  The definition of mind is this:  You are here, but you want to be there.  You are there but you want to be here.  The mind sees here and there, but consciousness sees one space.



Instead, dwell in that one space.  Remain focused with one-pointed energy on the space.


Now, apply this to your relationships.


See meditating on one gong strike as an analogy.


Physical encounter with your partner or colleagues is one strike of the gong.  Passing a few moments in one another’s physical presence is one strike of the gong.


That one physical meeting creates a vibration.


That vibration continues forever.


Maintain your capacity to sense the vibration of that one physical encounter into the sensitive and sacred space and drop the perception of that which separates you.


Really, there is no separation, only space.  But time and space never separate us.  It is all one time and all one space.  Only the mind creates the separations.  Be with the space as a connection, a conduit that links us.  Between us may be a space; perhaps, the greater the space, the greater the link, and the greater the possibility of growing our sensitivity.


Do not focus on the perception that you dwell far apart.  Instead, focus on that vibration that carries on as your link; focus on that which released and continues to expand from that initial, unifying encounter.



If this does not make sense, don’t worry.  If you choose, read the above explanation over and over again until something shifts in you, even if the shift makes you more mystified.  Keep it playful.  The spiritual journey should not be burdened by getting overly serious.


We can illustrate the same point through our experience of a poem.



Try opening the sensitive space and the sacred space by experiencing this poem by Rumi.  Don’t just read the poem, but be with this poem as an experience, as an encounter.  Allow your longing to merge with Rumi’s longing.


Whatever sense or energy you feel from experiencing the longing here, let that resonate with you for as long as possible, and even longer.  Open up the sensitive space.  Continue to open the sensitive space to let it become the sacred space. The feeling the poem invokes might stay with you for an instant or an hour or maybe forever.  It all depends on you and how willing you are to realize the resonating potential of Rumi’s expression weaving into the deep space of your own introspection.



Consider this:  what is the resonating potential of your long-distance relationships reaching into the sensitive space, reaching into the sacred space within you?



In any relationship —

whether it is with a distant loved one

or with the moon —

just be yourself, enjoy yourself, and

keep the love-window open!



Sat Naam!




© Yogi Amandeep Singh



3 comments on “Healthy Long-Distance Relationships

  1. Lisa Miller

    I love this!. Thank you again for your profound words. Yes let’s keep that love window open. Satnam.

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  2. Sat Nam.
    This answer to the beautiful question resonated deeply. Rumi’s poem struck a chord, and where you wrote; “perhaps the greater the space, the greater the link, and the greater our possibility of growing our sensitivity”, gave me the hope that it is possible to strengthen ties between Chela and Teacher.


  3. sandrine lafond

    This is beautiful and it makes my heart vibrate. I am always living abroad and traveling, leaving on different continents people who are dear to my heart and soul. It gives me the image of many gongs vibrating…


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